At Home, Every Man is the King of His Castle

First of all, let me put forth my personal position on gay relationships. As the title of this post indicates, I believe that every man (or woman) is the king (or queen) of their castle, and what they do in their castle is their business.

 

I have no personal hatred towards someone because they are gay. However, if I don’t know you’re a queer guy, and you don’t act gay around me I won’t have a problem with you and it will equally be easy for you to gain my friendship as someone who is not gay. If later I find out you’re gay, nothing in the friendship will change as long as you don’t act gay around me. If you act gay around me I will feel uncomfortable and possibly offended, and will not want to be around you. I would not go out of my way to insult or offend you.

 

With all that being said, I also want to address the controversial issue of the Don’t Ask Don’t Tell policy in the military, aka DADT.

 

As a former service member, I had the honor and privilege to serve with a couple of gay guys that I had no problems with. At work, you would never know they were gay and they revealed their orientation only to people they trusted. In uniform, they were soldiers, at home or in the club, they were themselves.

 

I mention these friends, because I believe they are the model in which gay members of the military should follow; they were able to serve honorably, stay under the DADT radar, act like soldiers, go home and be themselves every night. There’s nothing that says you’re not allowed to be in the military if you’re gay, they just ask that you keep it to yourselves, and I don’t believe this is too much to ask.

 

I don’t know how basic training is anymore, but I know when I went through basic training, it was Hell. I also know that if someone was gay in our platoon, all hell would break loose. The Army claims that your safety is their first priority, it isn’t. Drill Sergeants fostered blanket parties and fights; they informed us that all we have to say is that so-and-so fell down the stairs to explain a black eye, while the victim of a fight feels so disgraced that they got beat up, they are ashamed to report the actual situation to the drill sergeant. Not to mention that a drill sergeant would laugh in your face if you told him you got beat up because you’re gay. DADT not only maintains a sexually comfortable level in an open-bay barracks among soldiers, it also protects gay recruits.

 

In the rest of the Army to be gay is a little more accepted, as long as you don’t bring it to work. Any good commander or sergeant, that is in charge of you, knows if you’re gay or not. As long as you fall in the ranks, dress-right-dress, talk, and carry yourself like a soldier, then there shouldn’t be any problems.

 

I don’t know the details of the discharges, regarding DADT, that took place since the beginning of the war, and I’m not saying the Army-way is perfect. There are definitely guidelines that need to be established when dealing with DADT in the army. I don’t think it’s appropriate to discharge someone on a black-and-white basis of “we know you’re gay, you violated the DADT policy, you are now dishonorably discharged.” It’s completely irrational. There must be good reason behind a discharge, and I don’t think this is established. Some commanders may have a very strict view on the topic and may automatically put a soldier in for discharge when he finds out.

 

Instead what needs to happen is a scope of reason needs to be enforced. I can understand that a soldier gets discharged for not standing at attention/parade rest properly, or doesn’t march properly, talk properly, or carry themselves properly and it all boils down to the fact that the soldier is bringing is sexual orientation to work. Whether a soldier is gay or not, you can still be discharged for these infractions for disrespect, missing movement, lack of military bearing, etc.

 

I believe DADT has its place in the military, however I don’t believe commanders should be able to freely and irrationally discharge soldiers for nothing more than finding out they are gay.

In Due Time: Everything Will Fall

The most dangerous thing in the universe is nothing more than a man made illusion: Time.

Time kills everything, every single person will fall victim to time, every living creature on this planet will too. Every planet, every sun, every galaxy will fall in time. And there is nothing we can do about it. Even if we were all completely healthy, time would still find the end to our lives.

I was over at my grandparents house, watching TV, and a quit-smoking commercial came on saying, "...if you don't quit smoking, YOU'RE GOING TO DIE!!" What a completely idiotic statement!! It doesn't matter if you smoke or not, you're going to die anyway!! I could quit smoking today and get into a car accident tomorrow!!

 

I heard another commercial claim that every cigarette you smoke, it takes 11 minutes off of your life. Now how did they come up with that number? I calculate that every time I smoke a cigarette, it takes 5 minutes off of my life......because that's about how long it takes for me to smoke it!!

 

You don't know when or how you're going to die. There's only one thing you do know, or at least you SHOULD know if you haven't come to the realization. It's that you ARE going to DIE, PERIOD. Whether you smoke or not.

 

Another thing that pisses me off is reading a headline that the Pentagon was proposing to ban smoking from the Armed Forces, and they claim that smoking and PTSD somehow correlate. WHAT IDIOTS!! Of course they correlate, because smoking cigarettes helps reduce stress!! And if someone was in a horrible situation that they will never forget, they will need a cigarette to help retain their sanity!! If smoking was banned from the armed forces, not only does that take away freedoms that they are and should be entitled to, it would also push them into a corner of alcoholism, more so than many of them already are!! I'd like to see a majority of the people spend over two years in Iraq and come back perfect!! And I don't mean spending the time at the different FOB Retentions!! Soldiers, you know what I'm talking about.

 

Furthermore, how can anyone ridicule someone more for smoking, than eating a Big Mac and Fries. Not only is diabetes AS dangerous as smoking, it's also as certain that you're going to get it, unless you run everyday, or have an abnormally high metabolism.

 

At the same time, what's the point of living, if you don't enjoy life anyway? Is the point of living, to live? Should I be walking on egg shells my entire life? Should I just lock myself into my room and never leave? Should we all?

 

I'm not going to walk on egg shells, nor am I going to lock myself in my closet. At the same time I will wear my seatbelt and not live my life recklessly. That's not the point of this blog. I just want the people who read this blog, to walk away realizing that one day, they are going to die and I hope you live your life in a manner that pleases you.